Tell me About a Time...

"Being alone has a power that many few people can handle." - Steven Aitchison

Miya Jefferson

October 4, 2021

It was the first semester of my Freshmen year in college. I didn't make much friends in the city and I didn't really get involved on campus. Pretty much everyday I would go to class, mind my business and go home. There was one particular person who always went out of there way to speak to me. I thought it was cute, but I didn't think much of it.

Fast forward to the end of the semester this person puts a note on my desk asking me to hangout, I accept.

This one time hanging out, lead to us pretty much hanging out everyday after and pretty soon we were dating.

This relationship consumed me. I wanted to be with this person everyday, they were my favorite person in the whole entire world.

Fast forward three years later...we split.

Like mentioned before, I let this relationship consume me. Being alone was not something I was used to. I had that person with me every step of the way for the past three years.

I had major anxiety being alone. I had no idea what I enjoyed doing anymore. I found myself falling into a slight depression as I watched the world go on around me. I realized my mental and physical health was starting to deteriorate. I knew I could not go on like that.

This period of isolation allowed me to reflect on the things that really mattered to me. I will say now, I really do enjoy my alone time, it no longer gives me anxiety, but actually peace.

Everyone needs time to themselves to reflect. This alone time allows one to truly become comfortable with themselves. This alone time started my self love journey. I feel like I already had love for myself in the past, but I had not realized that this is an ongoing practice and as we grow our love for ourselves grows with us.